What is your Third Place?
Ray Oldenburg wrote a book called, The Great Good Place which is a compilation of essays about places around the nation where, to quote the classic tv show Cheers, “everybody knows your name.”
The first place according to Ray is the Home and the 2nd place is work and then comes the third place, a place where you go to form community, make friends, relax, grow, be.
As I was thinking about what my Third place is, I came to a realization that I wanted to share. I realized that my third place is the church. Now since I work in the church, it is my 2nd and 3rd place, but whose counting. Seriously though, I have made my third place church. From student ministry to young adult ministry to church activities, to church services, to…you get the picture.
Now to most that might not seem like a bad deal. It’s a place where I make friends, grow spiritually and emotionally through my connection with God and others, where people know my name, etc. But to me, that is not something I am proud of. I want to have a third place that is actually OUT in the world where real people are doing life (not to say that real people aren’t doing life at church- you get where I’m going right?).
There are at least 10 coffee shops that I know of and can list off the top of my head within 5 miles of the church. I’m sure that number is way less than the actual coffee shops there are! There are countless other restaurants, shops and natural meeting spots that people would consider their Third Place if they used that type of language that are also close to the church. And yet I find myself, week after week, solely relying on BBC to provide the place for me to develop meaningful relationships with others- not to mention maybe even sharing something spiritual with them.
So I am in the process of creating my Third Place. As I mentioned last Thursday, LUX coffee shop has become my new connection point. I am planning to transition more of my office time to the coffee shop with the hope that I will make some good friends. It’s awesome the small connections I have begun to see God working out by just being there more often- even if I’m not drinking coffee.
So as we continue down the road of learning about what it means to be “Missional” followers of Jesus, I want to encourage you to be intentional about creating a Third Place. Ask God to reveal where you should go or just pick a spot you like and ask God to open the door for some meaningful conversations. I think you’ll find that as you become intentional about creating a Third Place, God will show you how intentional He can get with those you will connect with.
I look forward to sharing more with you this Thursday night as we enjoy dinner, worship, communion and continue on this journey as followers of the Living Christ!
Steve